7 Wisdoms - Please
Keywords for Please
Only too often it is we who are the effect of someone else’s cause—in other words we are serving someone’s ambition rather than our own vision. This needs to end if we are to align with soul, because the soul—though it may well be pleased to serve another’s vision—will never choose to be subservient to the pursuit of the ego-ambitions of another. To survive there are certain requirements that are absolute and not negotiable and it is necessary, if we are to build a robust vision, to do so upon the foundations of these requirements. The fluffy vision, pink and pretty, is the soft and comforting dream that dream-sellers entertain us with. A realizable vision is the stuff of the hero/ine: those who are few in number and aspire to establish values and act out of principle to realize their own uniqueness of spirit.
It’s not enough to have a vision; there needs also to be the will to make it happen. We are tested: ‘Is what we want worth the effort?’ Or perhaps putting it differently: ‘Do we really want this or is it just a wish?’ Wishing is quite different from wanting; it is rather fanciful and carries no expectation of achievement, in fact it is often specifically identified with the impossible ‘I wish money grew on trees’, whereas wanting aligns with intention and expectation of achievement.
Nothing can be done alone, we need help. So who will help us? Suppliers of goods, services, advice and permissions—these are all real people, each with their own vision and intentions, as are staff, co-workers, friends, families and strangers. Our intention has to find a way to integrate with theirs if we are to prove successful in our endeavours. In the case when a number of people are all aligned in single focus upon a common aim, then much is possible.Cooperation is working together: to have it requires that each party is pulling towards the same end. Without this sense of a shared communal purpose, it is better to resist inappropriate involvements and maintain independence until the possibility comes along for suitable co-working. Without it, we are condemned to exist as small and usually insignificant particles instead of enjoying being part of a larger richer experience.
In sacred use ‘Please’ becomes ‘Please God’ or prayer. Prayer is 'please with a sacred atmosphere'. Its purpose is to align our single-minded passionate clarity with the will of God. Both meditation and prayer seem to be essential in spiritual development and both are process of the mind. With meditation there is a sense of allowing a relaxed and attentive mind to open up its love of a subject in order to see the way that universal patterns are made knowable. In contrast to meditation, prayer is passionate. Picture and passion produce prayer. An idea willed by an expectant mind becomes an event; this is surely one way to define magic—all magic is applied prayer, all action is prayer, we could call it psycho kinesis. It is thinking with feeling, an idea desired and willed, and the more wholeheartedly and assured is the attitude we adopt, the prompter is the realization. So we can that desire, therefore love, is a necessary component of prayer—the time and the emotion we give to the object of our desire together create our lives. .
The wisdom of PLEASE
How come we keep repeating the same process? We often just travel around again to where we have already decided to leave—same relationship issues, same work problems, same family arguments—we travel in circles. By this process of trial and error (No, Hello, Thanks, Goodbye, No) we can come to a vague inner sense that ‘There must be more to life than this.’ Perhaps even: ‘I’ve had money, sex, position and the good life and I’m still dissatisfied, actually I’m depressed. My depression is not a problem because I can turn it off with any one of the various socially approved drugs or escapist media that I’m personally likely to choose and which surround me in every room, every street, every conversation and every thought I have’.
Spirals are much more the symbol of what is needed in a healthy life, they are circles extended into another dimension, retaining the essential cyclical nature of life whilst adding the sense of progression towards a higher goal. Please has the effect of adding this dimension, which opens doors to new horizons of possibility. We have to learn—and really understand—that we don’t need to do something today the same way we did it yesterday.
We are the ones taking the initiative with Please, we act out of our own impulses and we act vigorously upon another, so Please is associated with assertiveness and often indicates implied authority. In saying this word we have clear intention to shift another’s position in order to facilitate the realization of our desired outcome. As a consequence of repeatedly doing so, our personal power increases. We become a constant force that bends reality to our goals, shapes understandings towards our beliefs and draws us closer towards the realization of our vision. However we can only access the truly extraordinary power of Please by going through a process of inner alignment. The tremendous personal authority that grows must be matched by the corresponding degree of personal responsibility. If, by our atmosphere alone, we bend the conditions of reality to our will, then we have to accept responsibility for all the implications of this—even those unseen. It behoves us to behave with more grace and deliberate sensitivity since, without the inner condition of modesty, the word Please is potentially very forceful.
q21 - 3 questions
Are you an assertive person?
Being assertive means that we push forward into the world with clear intention to change somebody else position. Our vision, of how things can be improved, is a powerful force that motivates us to impact cooperatively upon others so that we change the way things are, certainly improving our own circumstances and hopefully the other person’s as well.
Are you good at choosing and asking for what you want?
There’s nothing wrong with desire – it is craving that is unwholesome. To get our desires fulfilled, it is necessary first to become very clear about specifically what we want. In order to be assertive we need to know what it is that we are asserting. This may involve overcoming patterns of self-denial, fears of being considered selfish, and even faulty understandings of religious dogma. Then we need to ask for it, because we all need help in one form or another. Prayer has a special way of focusing support at the highest level of being.
Are you likelier to take action than to grumble?
Grumbling is an expression of pessimism and negativity and does little or nothing to enhance our wellbeing. What works is to take an active position. We need to focus positively on the required result and speak in words that suggest an expectation of success. Such an attitude will align our own will to succeed with those involved with us, and will strongly support the attainment of our goals.
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